Men must share load of work in the home
“The case against stay-at-home moms,” Mary Winter’s Right at Home column of May 5 on Leslie Bennetts’ new book The Feminine Mistake is a vital and timely message, and not just for women.
First, like it or not, no person can afford not to carve out her or his own autonomy and financial independence. Control and power over one’s life is to be found in economic solvency, not housework and child-raising.
That being said, we must all put our homes and our children first. Work should exist to serve this greater good. But we have to change the culture that says “home work” is “women’s work.” It’s everyone’s work! And women have to face this reality and debunk the myth that says they must stay home. Somebody’s got to be home, when needed, and it doesn’t always have to be mom. When everyone shares the load and the rewards, everyone benefits.
Forget Mother’s Day and Father’s Day — let’s hear it for Parents Day!
Anne Culver, Denver
Anne, I will be happy to cook and clean and take care of the children. Women can also take on tradional chores done in the home by men, mowing the lawn, chopping and hauling wood, fixing mechanical components, getting up on the roof, cleaning the chimney, changing the oil on the car, yardwork and any and all heavy lifting and physically demanding work relagated to men traditionally. When this role reversal is complete maybe men will start living longer than women. If men's domestic roles don't appeal to you, get back in the house and get it cleaned and my children cared for!
Posted by Realist on May 10, 2007 06:02 AMActually, I don't see that we have a "myth" in this country that women should stay home. If anything, I am seeing a growing realization that the two-income model is fracturing families, putting them in debt, and leaving them little time to do much else besides spend all day in a cubicle, then rush to schlepp the kiddies to their various soccer lessons.
It's leaving American families exhausted and unfulfilled. And that's why many women - and yes, men! - are choosing to stay at home and raise their children on a full-time basis again. They're learning they can do away with a second, third car, a jacked up mortgage payment, gym memberships, premium cable subscriptions, extra credit cards, and a host of other goods and services that have put them in hock at the expense of quality time with their families.
I believe the intentions of the letter-writer were well meant, but when she states that control and power over one's life depends on economic solvency, I think she misses the larger point that as long as we depend on a two-income model to get there, we're never really going to be "solvent." Not economically - because if one parent loses his/her job, an economic crisis will soon follow. And certainly not emotionally solvent. There is more to life than work and that expensive house in the 'burbs.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 06:42 AMWomen can also take on tradional chores done in the home by men, mowing the lawn, chopping and hauling wood, fixing mechanical components, getting up on the roof, cleaning the chimney, changing the oil on the car, yardwork and any and all heavy lifting and physically demanding work relagated to men traditionally. When this role reversal is complete maybe men will start living longer than women.
LOL, Realist...are you saying women are working men to death? Because I've heard that one reason men have a shorter life expectancy is because you don't see medical care, i.e., preventive checkups, etc., as often as you should.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 06:44 AMSpeaking as a woman, Realist, I do the lawnmowing (we have a small townhouse lawn and I mow it with a weedwhacker), we each handle the oil for our own cars, all the yardwork is mine since I like to garden and he doesn't, we don't have a chimney or a stove so chopping wood and cleaning the chimney are not necessary, and neither of us have needed to get on the roof of our house since we bought the place four years ago.
He does fix mechanical components, usually, as he's less clumsy than I am about it. (We also split, about evenly, the housework and childcare, too. I have a great husband.)
As for the heavy lifting, well, we both do that. Most of the heavy lifting we have to do is better done with two people anyway.
Longer life? Dunno. I do know that heavy lifting and physically demanding work are more likely these days to extend people's lives than to cut them short.
Posted by Katja on May 10, 2007 07:01 AMI love it that my 'lady' is willing to stay home and take care of the house and things and also the kids. Reminds me of how I was raised as a kid. Dad worked, Mom was at home.
my x was one of the women that her job was more impotent than the kids and she was so into it that our kids were second to her job.
I am all for stay at home moms. If you want to work go for it but dont say men need to work more around the house.
I like the saying that "the most important things in life are not things". To me, a basic reason for the need for two incomes is an acquisitive one, the addiction to things, gadgets, cars, houses, etc. I also like the complementarity of the genders, the idea that the two genders are different in ways that complement each other, such as is illustrated in the begetting of children. I just don't think the genders are interchangeable. I don't think the differences are just physiological. But I sure don't know why life has become so materialistic or what can be done to reverse the trend. And I do take to the notion that if women had more say in world affairs we might well have more peace.
I particularly appreciated mytwosense's take on the subject. Her post pretty much put my own thinking into words, and in such a civil and polite way.
Posted by Truth on May 10, 2007 07:42 AMI had to read this letter a couple of times. Each time I got a new sense of what this woman is like.Selfish comes to mind.I am hoping she doesn't have children.They will turn out like the Paris Hilton's of the world.I hope she isn't married because her husband will tire of waiting on her hand and foot all while she is putting him in his place because she makes money at a job.That being said.
I am a stay at home mother. I waited until we were financially ready so their wouldn't be a big strain on my husband. My 2 children
exceed in school way past their peers and way past the ones stuck in daycare.My children are well mannered, never cause trouble or disrupt school,are well rounded and involved in activities they like not what overachieving parents want them to be.
They earn their allowance and have a lemonade stand in the summer.I teach them fiscal responsibility by helping them figure out costs,suuplies and profit. I am urging them to go to college have a career,but they have indicated that when they get married and decide to have children they too will stay at home with them.
They pity their friends and hear their friends often say , you are so lucky your mom is home for you.When their friends get home from daycare they make a beeline for my house.I've had mothers get jealous that their kids rather be at my house than with them.
My husband spends alot of time with his children. Very often he take our 2 girls and their friends to the zoo,parks,and museums and plays. In the summer he will pile the neighborhood kids in the van and take them to Dairy Queen. I've never seen any of their friends fathers out playing or taking their kids friends anywhere,same goes for the mothers.
My husband and I discussed me working part time but it ended up not being worth the time ,money and we talked with my kids about it and they said ,Mom you have enough to do around here.
I have a full-time job.I get up in the morning make my kids breakfast and lunch and get them off to school. During the day I am doing cleaning,laundry,running errands,preparing dinner and trying to dejunk our house because my husband is a packrat.I pick my children up from school while dodging unsupervised kids riding bikes and skateboards in and out of traffic.We get home get a snack and drink start homework and are always talking and discussing their day and actually having a conversation.Then they do their chores and go play.We sit down together as a family everynight at the dinner table . I prepare meals for my family .We don't eat out alot.Sometimes we have pizza night but that has changed since I taught my children how to make their own pizza. They like that much better. We cook alot together and my 10 year old will often make dinner with a little help. My 7 year old loves to cook. We do arts and crafts. Art is a big thing in our house.I have a huge cabinet filled with arts and crafts.
Then there are the sleepovers.We usually have someone sleeping over at our house every week. We are planning a big sleepover to celebrate the end of the school year.There will probably be about 8 kids including my 2.
No other parents do this they are to busy doing their own thing and don't want to be bothered with their kids or anyone else's.
My husband and I will be celebrating or 24th anniversary this month.Alot of their friends are from divorced parents.The tug of wars are insane.
I worked a " regular" job all my life.I started my own preschool business when I was 20. I bought my first home when I was 21.I have taken care of children all my life.I am the one the kids would say to,
" I wish you were my mom" .I was a nanny for a few years when I moved out here and when I got pregnant with my first child my husband and I decided I would be a stay at home mom.It is the perfect job for me.I was born to take care of children.I volunteer at school.Kids often tell me how alone they are and they feel lonely when they find out I am a stay at home mom.
I plan on being here for my children until they graduate. many studies have been done about teen drug use and sex and most of it occurs between the hours of 4.p.m and 7.p.m. There was a questionaire that asked teens if they would change one thing in their house what would it be? The majority said they would like someone to be home when they got home.
If a mother chooses to work that is her choice and I would never put them down for doing what they think is best for them.When a working mother sees no value to what I have chosen she is blind.Children need their mother and father.They would rather have a parent at home then to be in daycare or be a latchkey kid.With all the stuff our kids are exposed to these days someone better step up and parent .Don't complain when your child becomes pregnant,does drugs,drinks,kills themselves or others in a car accident,gets sexually assaulted by a predator because they are targets,treats you with disrespect,is disruptive in school,hangs with they wrong crowd,does poorly in school,and develops a me,me,me,attitude.Children often learn what they live.If you have parents that are selfish you often have selfish kids.
You may make more money with 2 incomes,good for you.Your children will pay the price,bad for them.
I have been taking care and teaching children all my life ,I consider myself very qualified at what I do. My children are happy healthy and well rounded.I have already seen signs of trouble in some of their friends.
My husband is happy that his children is happy and safe. He loves coming home to a home cooked meal and sitting down and talking with his family.He loves the great lunches I make him and is often complimented by his work buddies . They usually complain their wives never make them a lunch.My husband comes home to a home and is greeted with love and appreciation for what he contributes to this family. He works hard and is rewarded for it in many ways.
Mother's Day is this Sunday.When I am greeted with , Happy Mother's Day! by my children and husband, I will know in my heart I am a Mother.Not just a breeder.
Glad that someone mentioned Paris Hilton, because she is yet another reason why, for the most part (not all) that:
www.americanwomensuck.com
Thank you, Saint Can I Get An Amen, for tooting your own horn so loudly. Would you now please lead us in the wonderful old gospel song, "How Great I Am"? Please pass the salt, I need a grain of it.
Posted by Truth on May 10, 2007 08:11 AMI hope the Rocky Mountain News removes that link. Took a quick look and I imagine sites like that have more of their fair share of rapists and other women-haters visiting it.
Would you direct your mother, your sister, your grandmother, your aunt, your daughter, your neice to such a site?
Disgusting. No real man would subscribe to such garbage.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 08:13 AMI had to read this letter a couple of times. Each time I got a new sense of what this woman is like.Selfish comes to mind.I am hoping she doesn't have children.They will turn out like the Paris Hilton's of the world.I hope she isn't married because her husband will tire of waiting on her hand and foot all while she is putting him in his place because she makes money at a job.
Amen, I think you missed a few things in her letter, and for that matter, so did I. She actually says that children and the home should come first, and someone should be at home for the kids.
What she is saying is that it doesn't necessarily have to be mom. It could/should be dad or mom.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 08:16 AMDoes the truth hurt?
Posted by Can I get an AMEN! on May 10, 2007 08:21 AMAmen - I think the truth does in fact hurt those to whom it applies.
That said, I recently married a foreign woman after many years of dating. I honestly thought I would never marry because I was so disgusted with being asked what I earn, what I drive and where I live, often on first dates. Many women today have a strong sense of entitlement as to what they are "owed". I applaud Amen for realizing that the stronger her home life is, the stronger her kids will grow up to be.
Way to go!
Posted by on May 10, 2007 08:31 AMThank You! 8:31 post. I work hard everyday to raise my children and to make my husband know he is appreciated. He works hard and I work hard.We both do it for the greater good. Our Children.Some people can't see past the material things and realize it's all about family not the latest car or fancy vacation.I have financial security.I work at home.My skills as a houshold manager are in high demand by professionals who can pay me for my services.
I was a nanny before I had my children. I ran the household and took care of everything.I was paid $30,000 a year and had about 6 weeks paid vacation. The family I worked for traveled alot.They wanted me to stay after I had my 1st child,she had twins one week before I had my 1st. They knew they would not find a better nanny that could handle everything that I did to keep their house running smoothly. We are still friends and the mother ended up becoming a stay at home mom because they couldn't find anyone who could take care of their children and run a large household.
That is what I was meant to do with my life.Take care of children,stay married forever and make a good happy home for myself,my children and my husband.
If people want to put me down for that so be it.
Life is good!
If people want to put me down for that so be it.
No one was putting you down for how you are living your life. If you will see in my first post to this thread, I was questioning the need for two incomes in this society. In my second post (to you) I was merely stating that I don't think the letter writer's intention was to deride stay at home moms, but instead, was meant to point out that staying at home with the kids shouldn't just be relegated to moms.
And I'm sorry, but I agree with Truth in that you used this letter to self-congratulate yourself. Good for you, but you didn't have to mischaracterize the original letter to do so.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 09:11 AMThe original writer was talking out of both sides of her mouth.
She originally stated women should work and control and power in life is found in economic solvency,NOT housework and child raising. In simple terms money is more important than raising children and keeping a home.
Then she contadicts herself by saying,we must all put our homes and children first.
Then she contradicts herself again by saying women have to face reality and debunk the myth that says they MUST stay home.
Then she contradicts herself again by saying someone should be home when needed.
Being a stay at home mom is a choice and is not forced on us. My husband does his share of work around here. He is much better at fixing things and cleaning gutters and stuff like that.We all work together in our house.We just chose to do it with one income and are not in debt or trying to keep up with the Jones's.
I think what she is saying if you read between the lines is .Two incomes are needed,her husband needs to do more around the house,and her kids will be fine and let her know if she is needed.If they stick to that plan it will be for the greater good of her family.
There is no myth that women must stay home.There are plenty of stay at home dads.The myth is your children will benefit with both parents working and they can fend for themselves as long as the money and the big house is there for them.The myth is kids will be better off with everything handed to them on a silver platter because their parents make more money because they both work.
Let's me put this in perspective. I have taken care of children all my life and the one constant I hear from them no matter what age is they want one of their parents to be at home.Money and things don't matter if they have a parent at home.
Posted by Can I get an AMEN! on May 10, 2007 10:17 AMMy wife and I both work full-time jobs and split up the household chores.
Also, we split up the household bills, based on what each of us makes. For example, if I make 40 percent of the income, I pay 40% of the total household bills.
These practices have served us well in the more than 21 years that we've been married.
Flexibility, compromise, respect and consideration are the keys to any successful relationship. For example, if my wife has had a hard day, I will either cook dinner and do the dishes -- or I'll spring for dinner in a nice restuarant.
Guys, you'll be a lot happier if you lose the "I am the man, so I am the boss" mentality. A marriage is a partnership -- not a dictatorship.
Posted by And Another Thing on May 10, 2007 10:18 AMThe myth is your children will benefit with both parents working and they can fend for themselves as long as the money and the big house is there for them.The myth is kids will be better off with everything handed to them on a silver platter because their parents make more money because they both work.
Let's me put this in perspective. I have taken care of children all my life and the one constant I hear from them no matter what age is they want one of their parents to be at home.Money and things don't matter if they have a parent at home.
That I agree with.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 10:31 AMI married a foreigner rather than an American woman.
Can I Get, etc:
"There is no myth that women must stay home.There are plenty of stay at home dads.The myth is your children will benefit with both parents working and they can fend for themselves as long as the money and the big house is there for them.The myth is kids will be better off with everything handed to them on a silver platter because their parents make more money because they both work."
"Let's me put this in perspective. I have taken care of children all my life and the one constant I hear from them no matter what age is they want one of their parents to be at home.Money and things don't matter if they have a parent at home.'"
Well said.
Good points,And Another Thing. When my husband and I both worked and didn't have children we split the bills and work. I paid less towards the houshold bills because I did the cooking and cleaning.He's a terrible cook and cleaning is not one of his strengths.
When we started our family we both agreed it was better for me to stay home.It would be crazy if I went to work as a nanny and then put my kids in daycare.
We have a partnership,My kids and I needs and wants are met.My husband can pursue his love of music.He collects guitars and amps and plays electric guitar, it's his passion.
My husband and I wouldn't be celebrating our 24th anniversary this month if we didn't have a partnership and he was a dictator or I was a nagger.
There is no " I " in team.
Posted by Can I get an AMEN! on May 10, 2007 10:52 AMThe virtue of the mother staying at home should not be painted with too broad a brush. Those generations during which mothers typically stayed at home had plenty of problems, and problem children. The mother staying home is not a mathematical formula for success. There are other ingredients that must be present. The "barefoot and pregnant" syndrom must be guarded against, and that often means for the woman make herself and her talents know outside the home and in what has been the man's world. And it is likewise true that there are many cases of mothers having to work, but at the same time raising very decent and productive children. Women's potential should not be too restricted by the mother staying a home. Women have a great deal of potential to do the world good besides raising a family. I firmly believe that having women involved in world affairs is a good thing. And it would likely be impossible for that to happen if all of them were home-bound mothers. It's as usual a matter of balance rather than an absolute.
Posted by t on May 10, 2007 10:57 AMSorry, t is for Truth.
Posted by Truth on May 10, 2007 10:58 AMBango -
Do you mind if I ask your wife's nationality? I have noticed a HUGE difference in the cultures of Asian versus American women.
Another point I'd like to bring up is some women and men don't have to work.There can be a parent at home.If you took the lowest salary in your household and deducted childcare,wardrobe,gas,wear and tear on your vehicle,time to and from work,doing work around the house on weekends because of working during the week,time missed with your kids,and don't forget the higher taxes.The IRS loves that second income.
If you take these things in consideration and do the math,you may find that just cutting back on a few things you could save money by staying home.
Also the times of barefoot and pregnant are over.Most stay at home moms are older and have already contributed to the workforce.They are older and wiser.It is almost impossible for young people who start their families early like in their twenties or early thirties to have a stay at home parent.They have not established a solid career yet.
Posted by Can I get an AMEN! on May 10, 2007 11:41 AMCan I get an AMEN, isn't it terrific that you are so wonderfully sanctimonious. I doubt that I've ever met anyone who is as perfect as you think you are. You have a lot of nerve judging other people (and their kids) that don't meet your standards.
For many people, economic security means putting food on the table and a roof overhead for their kids. The author of the letter was in no way disparaging anyone who would put their families first.
Posted by more of the same on May 10, 2007 11:47 AMSome quick notes. Letter writer mentioned "economic solvency" perhaps for woman? Old saying " Any woman who relies upon a man for her complete support, is one paycheck away from welfare." Go ask women at the shelters how that dependancy hit them.
Women who divorce , or are divorced ,and need SS find they have none available, because, surprise, they never worked for pay. Go downtown where the cheapest hovels rent and ask older women how they got there. All those dreary apartments over shoe stores and vacumn repair shops.
Many women I personally know work because they can get health insurance for their families. Many times the husbands job or income makes health insurance prohibative.
The letter sure struck a nerve with realists. Reminds me of my dad moaning because women didn`t bake home made bread and live like June Cleaver, or earliler.
One day I said "Dad if you really want to go back in time so much, think of this. You would have to hitch up horse and buggy everytime you want to pop down to the local tavern for a few. You would have to tend a wood or coal furnace for us." And take care of the horses or horse.
He never thought beyond his own complaining.
Division lf labor works when couples respect each other, not order each other around. realist got the whole letter wrong.
I'm not understanding Amen saying that :"you may find that just cutting back on a few things you could save money by staying home" and then saying that doing that is almost impossible for young people.
While it is clearly not impossible since there are many couples that do that, it is indeed very difficult in today's world.
The reason is nothing intrinsic; after all, it did work for hundreds of years, albeit in ways I don't agree with. In my opinion, the reason is both individual and systemic. Individual because, as Amen and Sense have pointed out, too many people are fixated on the material in life. Systemic because the moneyed interests have geared our economy toward those who are obsessed with the material. At the base of both of these is the term "materialistic", and I admit that changing that focus does look somewhat impossible at this juncture. But the hope is that there will at some time be an epiphany, hopefully not as a result of disaster but it may come to that. 9/11 might have been an opportunity to emphasis the need for the spiritual or the simplistic or the basic values or whatever you want to call the opposite of the materialistic, but instead it was used to promote the materialistic.
If that focus is to be changed, in my opinion the change will be spearheaded by women and children, though clearly men must follow if it is to be successful.
Posted by Truth on May 10, 2007 01:28 PMCan I Get an AMEN is clearly leading a very fulfilling life, judging by the number and lengths of the posts here. I guess you have to find some way to occupy your time, eh? Just be aware that this kind of pseudo-interaction doesn't replace actually having a life, friends, someone to talk to, etc.
My guess is that you write about yourself here because nobody else listens to you (why would they?). Am I close?
Posted by Grog on May 10, 2007 01:51 PMThe only thing that "Can I Get an Amen" could do better is homeschool her kids.
And she is right, this society is materialistic.
Posted by gamby on May 10, 2007 02:08 PMBut, gamby, if you work for a company that makes anything, and if people become less materialilstic and stop buying that product, well what then.....?
Or if your company ships, repairs or stores material things. or supplys parts etc.
Posted by Sharon B. on May 10, 2007 02:49 PMI'm not understanding Amen saying that :"you may find that just cutting back on a few things you could save money by staying home" and then saying that doing that is almost impossible for young people.
I think I understand what she's saying, if we're assuming she means young people that haven't started a family yet.
I have a friend who went back to work after she had her baby, then quit a year later when she tallied up the expenses of gas and daycare. She realized the amount she was bringing home was very miniscule after all, especially compared with how little time she was able to spend with her new child.
That being said, some people have to put their children in daycare, period. My own mother did, as she was a single parent working two jobs and going to school. We didn't have family in the area and she really had no choice.
Posted by mytwosense on May 10, 2007 03:18 PMI don't know to what extent Sharon and I are on the same page, but the main thing I take from the various posts is that this is not a one size fits all matter. While I very much like the ideal of a mother being able to stay home to raise her children, even though that certainly does not always produce the results we wish for, I also recognize that this is my ideal arising out of my own background and personality. It would be most unfair to think that everyone should aspire to my particular ideal. I recognize as a fact that many women whose ideal did not match mine have contributed greatly to mankind. Mother Teresa would perhaps be the hallmark of this, not in the sense that others should walk her path but simply as an example that for some women my ideal just does not fit and would in some cases deprive the world of great benefit.
It is certainly a fact that for many women, working is obligatory if they are to provide themselves and their children with even the basic necessities. And the business of being materialistic is not a black and white matter or a one size fits all matter. As I think is true of such matters, the answer for any given individual is not simplistic or mathematical, as nice as that would be. It calls for a balancing act and where that balance is will differ with different people. Some women are called to tasks other than or in addition to child rearing. I think that is one reason I resist Amen's autobiographical arguments. Not everybody's moccasins travel the same route as hers.
I do think our society is much too materialistic but it may well be that women such as Mother Teresa are much more influential than most at-home mothers in combating this problem.
Posted by Truth on May 10, 2007 03:44 PMTruth you are right. I can't say what is good for me is good for someone else.I can't walk in everyone's shoes.I was trying to make the point that if at all possible and if the mother wanted too,she should or the father be with the children.
Our kids need us more than ever for supervision and guidance.
No my life is not perfect and I am not the perfect parent.I only know whats best for me and my family and my job is to be a stay at home mom.
I owned and operated my own preschool for 13 years. Most of my kids had single moms.I charged half of what the going rate because I went into business to make a difference not a huge amount of money.
I am still in contact with most of the parents and students . They have all grown up and went to college,one is in the Army,one has his own sheet metal business,one has his own tile business.One is about to have her first child and she plans on being a stay at home mom.Two sisters I taught are in college.Their parents are grateful that I gave their children a high quality foundation. They all turned out well.
One boy started his family early and called me to ask how to find quality daycare.All my former students live out east and we write and send pictures back and forth and keep in touch with e-mail.
My mother was a single mom with 4 children. She met a man who is my stepfather. He made our lives miserable and my mother's too. When my mother died 5 years ago I cut him off. I found out he had sexually abused a cousin and didn't want him around my children. I found out about this when my oldest was 5. He had already taken an interest in her only not my other one. I thank God my cousin came forward she might have saved my daughter.
Parents whether they work or not is their choice just like it's my choice to stay home.I don't have a problem with working moms,I just don't want to be classified as not pulling my own weight financially.I don't want to be told you are ruining your children by staying home,or you need to work so you have your own money.
I have my own money. I have Mutual Funds and an Annuity in my name that I saved before I quit work to stay at home. I'm using these funds for college.
I had a lifelong plan to be a stay at home mom and prepared for it.
Also if anything happened to me or my husband we are well insured.
I applaud all mother's and father's that are raising their children in a good way. The one's who have children and then become a liability and they don't want to parent are the one's I have a problem with.
Parenting is hard no matter what the situation is.Being a stay at home mom is not the only way to raise good children. Parents should however provide their children with preschool and good daycare.
Happy Mother's Day to all the Mom's out there!
Posted by Can I get an AMEN! on May 11, 2007 08:43 AMMorning, folks...did any of you see today's article in MSNBC that talked about the decline in divorce? Apparently, we're at the lowest levels since 1971.
What kind of perplexed me about the article is a couple of references that implied one reason might be because more women are working, thus easing tensions at home regarding money matters.
I didn't see any back up stats in the article to support that claim either, but maybe I overlooked them as I basically just skimmed the article.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18600304/
Might be interesting to discuss...for example, if it is indeed a factor driving down divorce rates, is it worth it to our kids? I guess they have two parents together, but are either at home enough?
Posted by mytwosense on May 11, 2007 09:23 AMmytwosense,You must have missed the report on NBC news last night stating that over 1 million women have quit their jobs to stay home with their children.Most of these women were lawyers and worked Corporate jobs. One reason they are staying home is to actually want to raise their own children,GASP!
One woman interviewed said it is the hardest job she's ever had.She stated it better for her children.God Forbid!
What is this world coming too?